I struggle with ways to make the farm profitable and I am always scheming, dreaming, and believing that we can figure out a way to bring in more cash and streamline our operations. I do this constantly. And I mean constantly to the point of all-consuming.
My friend Sherri said I am in the arena and that I could use an outside view. I wasn’t sure what she was talking about and she said I needed to look up Teddy Roosevelt’s speech.
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”
I can relate wholeheartedly to this quote. My face and body are marred with dust, sweat and blood. I am one who knows great enthusiasms, great devotions, worthy causes, and I am not afraid to dare greatly. I am definitely not a timid soul. I enjoy life too much to sit back and watch. The achievements and failures are all successes to me because I gave them both my all.
My coach Noam also told me I needed an outside view the very next day. So I did two things. First I asked several female friends - wise women to help me think outside the arena and to help me get a new perspective. We met this afternoon and they asked me a lot of tough questions and questions I had never considered. They also agreed to help me figure it out and we left with things each person would do. We are meeting again next week. It is truly amazing to ask for help and to receive so much!
Next Noam asked me to answer several questions he had from a place where I could see the whole farm. My first reaction was the balcony of the farmhouse. But then I realized that living on the farm is part of being in the arena, so I went out to the hay field to look at the whole farm from an outside view.
Both endeavors allowed me to get an outside view that I had not considered before. Stepping out of the arena was helpful. Now that I have new things to ponder, I again climb into the arena as the next round begins.